Nicole Flockton

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18 May 2006

The Price of Life

What is the worst thing that could happen to you? The thing that could possibly scare the beejebers out of you?

Well for me it's something happening to me or my kids. I sometimes get scared of something happening to me and not being there to see my kids grow up. It just doesn't bear thinking about. Or what about something happening to one of your kids? Again something I don't want to think about. But for a guy a work it's something that he lives with day after day.

I'm not going to give his real name but I'll call him John. Late last year John thought he'd take his two kids on a holiday. Somewhere nice, somewhere where they could have fun and just be together. You see John is divorced so anytime with his kids is precious. So after a family discussion they came to the conclusion that they'll go to Bali.

I think some of you maybe able to see what is happening here. Yes that's right they went at the time of the second lot of bombings in Bali. Just as Bali was getting back on their feet after the devasting bombings of 2002 it happened again.

Now for me I'd never known anyone associated with either bombing until John started to work with us. On that fateful Saturday night, John's son lost his life, John and his daughter were badly injured. John's daughter suffered burns and shrapnel wounds and I think it was about a week or so after the inital bombing that she was told of her brothers' death. At the funeral John was delivered by ambulance and on a hospital bed. John is currently in a wheelchair.

You can see the pain in John's eyes and the first time we had drinks in the office it was a big effort for him to come along. John spends every morning in rehab hoping to gain the use of his legs again. Last week he told me a little about his injuries and showed me a wound. He has shrapnel from those dirty bombs buried deep in his body.

He told me today that he had a time trial at rehab. He accomplished 199m in 6 minutes using his crutches. He then showed me how he could take a few steps with out the aid of the crutches. He has set his goal and his goal is to walk again unaided. The spinal injury he suffered has put his balance off a little. He also told me that he has set the goal to walk without crutches because if he'd just set the goal to walk with them he would then accomplish that and never try for more. He spoke with a steely determination and I couldn't help but admire him.

His daughter lives in a country town so he lives on his own. He is fiercely independent and initially I didn't know what to say to him. But now, after him volunteering that information today, I'll ask him about his rehab and I'll do my best to try and encourage him anyway I can.

We hear about the devastation of the bombings, the lives lost but this is where the real story lies. The grit and determination of a person injured to get back what was taken from them. He will carry around the guilt and plenty of what if's for the rest of his life. But time will heal him and with his determination I don't doubt that in a couple of years time he'll be walking again.

Go John!!



  • At 9:16 am , Blogger Nicole Reising said...

    Nicki -

    I wanted to say something - but words elude me - they seem too trite and too contrived -- I sat here thinking for a long time and in the end will just simply say --
    Thank you for sharing and my prayers are with them.


  • At 12:14 pm , Blogger Jenne said...

    Wow, what an incredible, heart wrenching story. Thank you for sharing Nicki. I too will add this family to my prayers.

  • At 5:53 pm , Blogger lidia said...

    Nicki, My prayers are with them. It is an incredible story.

    By the way, you've got mail.


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